Built by someone who went through it.

My story

I'm Sarah. At 43, I threw myself into IVF. Getting my very low AMH results made me panic. So I started out with no clear plan, no treatment strategy, and no real understanding of what I was walking into.

I wasted evenings on Google, left consultations more confused than when I arrived, and booked a cycle in Spain before I'd done anywhere near enough due diligence. That cycle cost me €11,000 with medication and travel. It wasn't the right clinic. It wasn't the right time. And I hadn't done the groundwork that would have told me either of those things.

A second cycle in Greece followed — about four months later, once I'd recovered from the first. That failed too.

Then another clinic in Spain refused to do an own-egg cycle, describing my chances as "improbable". This hit me hard. Were my own eggs really unusable? I had never tried to get pregnant so my fertility was being purely determined by my age.

What I didn't know then, and know now, is that a clinic turning away a woman over 40 is often a business decision, not a medical one. Clinics protect their success rate metrics. A patient with lower odds affects those numbers. That information would have changed how I processed that feedback — along with two doctors who said my only chance of a baby was using donor eggs.

Nine months after the first recommendation to use a donor egg, I conceived naturally with a known donor. I was almost 44.

I came out the other side with a healthy baby after an uncomplicated pregnancy. I also had a very clear picture of where the system had failed me — and where I had failed myself by going in without the information I needed.